Some people think that “saying yes” “I am fine” is a sign of positive attitude. When we know something is not right, acknowledge it and don’t cover it. Your truthfulness of revealing the problems would enable you to seek help and support before it is too late for remedy.
For example, when you know that your car is having battery problem. Don’t say, it’s OK. What happen if your car breakdown halfway? You would trouble your family members. Your appointment would be canceled.
In our success journey, we need to learn about “problem solving”. First, we must admit that we have a problem to solve. Spend time on problems might be stressful and painstaking, but it is the price for a “sweet success” The more positive you are, the more problems you are going to resolve. Don’t run away from problems. Don’t cover the problems and don’t ever say “I am OK’
Spend few minutes a day for personal review. Think of those problems that “make you problematic”. Ask yourself sincerely, why you still not able to attain your goals in life. Why people don’t like you. Why you don’t have time for sport, for family etc. The more you resolve these problems, the higher your success will be.
A person who want to attain “great” dreams in life will always having more problems than those who just want to live a normal life. For example, an MDRT producer in insurance surely has more challenges and problems than normal insurance agent. The top officers in any company definitely have more problems that the junior staff. In this aspects, saying and expressing “I have a problem” is indeed a good sign. It is the starting journey towards “change” and improvement. As the saying goes, the change is to improve. If you have no problems, no obstacles and no challenges, you might don’t see the changes in you.
Don’t always say “I am OK” all the times. As far as your dreams still in stumble with all sort of challenges, you need to say “I am not OK yet” Most motivator who train their participants to shout, I am great, I am happy, I am positive is just to supply the participants with more “power” to go through challenges and problems. Most people feel so good about the seminar and do nothing to “explore their problems.” They actually was mislead by the motivator, that they are actually OK. This is the first confusion most people have when they attend “motivational seminar”. After few weeks, the problems keep accumulating and they start to feel “down” again.
A good personal development program is able to build a balance between positive thinking and problematic thinking. Positive thinking is to build your self esteem while problematic thinking is to activate your awareness towards better life solutions and help you to overcome all those problems.
Positive thinking is not to neglect your problems. You need to know that, problems are good for success. How you handle them and how you manage them is important. When you become so positive that “everything is all right” you will become a man with more problems.