$Many people are blinded with the greatness of successful individuals, because they cannot see the “painful” experience and set back in their life. In fact, the more successful a person is, the more he encounter with failure and defeat. People with such mentality tend to neglect one of the success principles that say “Failure is part of success”.
Success mentality always comes with the ability to absorb downfall and failures in life. When the worst incident strikes us, we need to learn how to go through the process and keep our mind on our mission. We also need to learn how to make decision to continue or to rework the problems using our value system. When we walk through the worst, we will be able to discover many “secret” that further lead us to a more fulfilling life. Sadly to say, this secret is the painful exchange with the downfall that he has encountered but the value behind is tremendous.
Sometimes ago, a friend of mind was asked to solve a business problem at the Customer office during his probation period. After few trips or negotiation, he comes back with “bad news” that he can’t resolve the problem in hand. Due to this failure, he was asked to leave the company before he even completes the probation. Few years later, I got good news from him. He actually gets married with a charming girl that he visited at the Customer office. Well, good things do not always come to us in a straight line. After few years, we start to aware that many of the bad incident in life is actually giving us “goodness”, “wisdom”, “Success” and “satisfaction”. If we don’t have the worst, we would not deserve all the success achievements. This is why many successful people say “Everything happen for a good reason”.
In fact, successful people have the mentality to absorb the worst life process without losing focus. They know that there are no such things as perfect success in this world. In the process, you might make a mistake, say wrong things, rejected by someone or even lost everything in life. These are so call “Black dots” in life is actually a test of the Al Mighty God on your perseverance to go for what you want. If you sustain your effort and keep on working on your mission without losing focus, you will gain “extra ordinary” result in life. You will start to enjoy “wealth” and “popularity” which is not your right at the first place. Just because you have a ability to survive through the journey of torture and misfortune, you rip the rewards from GOD as a special gift.
The hardcore test that happen to those who has mission in life is actually a sign of “greater success”. There is a saying in Chinese, God only give the right of great success to those who has the ability to walk through the test of sincerity.
I have a college’s friend who loves to learn. He will take every opportunity to join free lessons in any field. He has a feeling that “free lesson” is worthwhile because he does not need to pay anything. On the other hand, I have another friend of mine who also love to attend free lesson. After learning for free from the master, he will offer his favor to help his teacher in research and development. He also organize social project to teach the lesson to those in need. If you compare the first and second person, you will discover that the second friend has a unique feature of “giver” in his heart.
What happen after few years, my first friend still a learner with no special achievement while my second friend has successfully developed his business network nationwide. When we study the mindset of my two friends, you will know that “success” is the right of those who are ready to give and share. The more you give your talent and time, the more the world will give you back what you deserved.
Those who are only thinking of him and wanted others to serve him will come to a stage that “nobody will want to help him anymore”. To this person, the more he ask for, the more he will become poor. This is likening to withdraw cash in his bank. The more he withdraw, he lesser it left in the bank account. On the other hand, a giver keeps on deposit more cash to his bank. He will become richer and richer.
Personally, I also make an observation on those whom I admire in life. To them, the success is no complete until they have given back to the society. They believe in social responsibility. They also believe in rewarding those who help him in life. He never takes advantage over others and he is ready to help those who have help him before. With his serving heart, he manage to gain continuous support from people around him.
Start living up a giving heart and start helping those in need. Remember, there is no free lunch that will solve your hunger forever. Learn to give back to those who have helped you to achiever your success in life.
Don’t expect everything is free for you. Learn to pay back through your sharing, effort and wisdom. The more you give, the more you will get.
A friend of mine told me, “He makes many mistake in life due to wrong judgment and decision”. He engages a wrong worker who has a bad Customer Service. As a result, he lost many good customers. He bought a wrong machine which was kept in the store for years. He was married to a wife who gives him lot of mental stress due to differences in handling family challenges. As a result, he made a decision to rebuild everything by “choosing” what he really wants. My big question “Why he made such choices at the first place?”
Well, success is all about choices and decision. Everyday and everywhere, we need to decide what to do and what to say. Every decision gives an impact to the life as a whole. The main factor that decides our choices is our values, interest and desire. Example, if we are looking for a wife who can help us in business, we will not look at beauty as main criteria. If we look for a charming lady as our wife, we will not look at characters and attitude so much. Most of the time, our major values in life make us blind towards others values which are also important to our life. This is the reason why we are trapped into a wrong decision which makes us “suffer” for life.
In order to have a right choice in life, can it be “career choice”, “life part”, “friends and associates” etc, we must be able to have an “Eagle Eyes” value judgment. We must not be tied up by certain benefit or interest that ends up with “blind decision”. We must be able to evaluate and analyze every aspect of our choice so that we are not regret later. In this aspect, you need to know exactly your mission, your resources, your competency and your strength. The more you know about yourself, the easier for you to make a decision. If you do not have a value system, you would be easily slipped to other values which might give problem to your life.
When you have master the success principles, your will be able to make a better decision in life. Even so, you are still open to wrong decision due to the changes of environment and individual. Nothing is permanent. Your good decision now might become a bad decision one day. In this manner, just face it with a smile and “choose again”. Don’t worry if other people “blame” you for the mistake you made due to “wrong decision”. In fact, everyone did make a wrong choice in life.
When you have a strong value system in life, you would be able to avoid wrong partner, wrong career, wrong life partner, wrong food etc which give you problems in life.